Little bar mitzvahnik Ruben Singman comes by his first flush of flash honestly. His Buenos Aires parents — the Mosaic Aaron and Miriam — run a showy clothing store that deals in the whole range of upscale style from the elegant down to the athletic. That covers the waterfront.
Father Aaron is Jewish/moral enough to pause over the propriety of declaring the gift registry and guest dress-style to advantage his store.
Ruben advances that integrity. While preparing for his bar mitzvah he wows his family with a splashy drag version of a Yiddish song. Chirribim. Its cheer and exuberance fade when he rejects his bar mitvzah. To be honest, he contends, that traditional recognition of the Jewish boy’s advent into manhood needs to declare her assertion as woman. His parents refuse him her bat mitzvah, the initiation rite adapted for a girl. As if to please his father Ruben dons the sad male pale blue suit— but only to cancel the ceremony. Out of the blue he comes out.
A garish montage is our bridge to the adult Ruben — now the internationally famous Yiddish singer and dance phenom Mumy Singer.— played by the fabulous Penelope Guerrero. Get it? Singman sans the man? Now Mumy is what she is, as well as what she does. The real not the assigned.
She sings that cheery bum song again, now with lavish male dancing accompaniment. As a performer she is now a success of Swiftian substance — that’s Taylor, not Jonathan. Mind you…..
In its energy Chirribim anticipates Mumy’s explanation of her Yiddish success: “I’ve transformed a lament into a party.” “The Kosher Diva” also has a handsome and understanding lover, Sergio. He quotes Lacan, a warning we may be in for some cultural anthropology here as well as all that song and dance. As Aaron warned us, “We’re a culture of symbolism.”
When Mumy brings her spectacular musical show home the song she so sells now, hopefully, is the King David psalm Hinei ma tov. It luxuriates in the sense of community and warmth. The emotion proves short lived. She easilly reunites with older brother Edouardo. They instinctively fall into an elegant, detached dance across the Claridge Hotel entry hall, before their exuberant embrace. He is now suffering his own marriage’s breakup, his wife’s impatient spurring him to take some advantage of his sister, and his imminent separation from their children.
Mumy's initially reluctant visit with her parents rekindles their lost warmth but with loss. Her father misses her concert because he is rushed to his deathbed. “This is the second time I’ve ruined your performance,” he quips. “I must need attention.” As her mother does later, Aaron fully accepts his “Mumy” and regrets his earlier rejection of her. He departs with the resonant “My chiquita.”
After her father’s funeral, Mumy's onstage performance of Henei ma tov turns rueful, elegiac. The party reverts to lament. Here Mumy loses her singing voice. It fades into the child Ruben’s voice that opened the film with the line: “Once upon a time there was a childhood. Everyone has one.’ To reconcile with that past child and its overtaking voice Mumy addresses her missed initiation into adulthood.
But having a bat mitzvah now seems as false to her past as the bar mitzvah felt then. Nor can the rabbi they consult adjust his traditions to her character and needs.
And so — properly to fill the void left by her uncompleted initiation — Mumy seeks spiritual guidance for a service more fitting for her person. Indeed the eponymous Trans Mitzvah. A service that bends to adjust to the individual beyond the binary of the bar and the bat.
As it happens, this transcendence finds its origin in the most prosaic point in the Singman store — in the safe behind the flash. Merchant Aaron had kept among his grey bookkeeping books an extensive file of Jewish esoterica, steeped in classic numerology, myth, legend, hope, the many archaic Jewish ways into transcendence.
We’ve had an augur of this spirit. On his deathbed Aaron gave Mumy one of the two silent glass bells she had chosen as the bar mitzvah gift for guests. As Aaron points out now, our music comes from within us, not from any outside instrument. So, too, the two walkie-talkies the children had been given, sans batteries. Their instinctual understanding made the machinery unnecessary.
So — the reluctant rabbi notwithstanding — has the modern climate changed since Ruben became Mumy that the adult “kids” get those redundant -- but obsolete so treasured -- toy batteries from an old friend. He is now in an openly gay marriage running a fancy wig-store. That store, incidentally, would equally serve the most Orthodox Jewesses as well as drag queens. Again, Judaism draws on a historic range of transcendent spirituality, sexuality, the power that validates and collectivizes individuality. Cue: the upbeat Hinei ma tov.
For Mumy’s climactic trans mitvzvah she and Aaron work through their father’s understanding, not away from him. His esoterica confirms Mumy’s old mentor’s spiritual direction from the gym floor to the family origin in Toledo, Spain. Mumy finally recovers her voice — in service to another young couple’s wedding, isolated in the desert. Her grabndfather echoes in the young shepherd’s citation of his old line, “Feel the merino. It’s the real thing.” This time there is an actual sheep. And in the film’s last shot — which repeats its first —the family store’s neon sign is emblazoned across the Spanish desert.
All this is magic? Special effects? No, not so special.
Not in this context. This is the reality of historic Judaism, a spirituality that drives deeper than social convention, even deeper than religious ritual, indeed deeper than any current reading of that long tradition. It makes convention whether societal or religious not the source of our soul music but the passive, malleable instrument by which to realize our individual own. Like those silent glass bells. Our music comes from within.
When Ruben rejects his bar mitzvah it’s because its form would deny what he is. His service would have been dishonest. Mumy loses her voice when that gap grows too burdensome to bear. But as she tries to reconnect to her buried Ruben her bat mitzvah seems equally inappropriate. Neither pronoun fits. Mumy's division into two even now harkens back to Ruben's two aunts at the office, who seemed like one divided into two to get the work done. Now Mumy's work is reuniting her selves, as heard in her divided voices.
This film summons up a historic spirituality and openness in Judaism that legitimizes Mumy’s unconventional expression — discovery? — of faith. Fittingly, for that self-realization she has to leave Buenos Aires for the desert. Not Sinai, but her family desert, in Spain. We all carry our own and own people’s histories intact. If not always in tact.
This is a remarkable film, both in itself and in its time. An unconventional Jew finds affirmation within the breadth of historic Judaism, beyond but still impelling its current state of global challenge and persecution. Clearly director Daniel Burman is a force to be reckoned with, an artist worth looking forward to.